2 Common Praises Teachers Need to Stop Giving Their Students
STOP saying, “Great job!”
START getting specific and intentional with your praises.
I’ve been there. In the attempt to motivate and encourage 25 students all day long, for 5 days a week, it’s easy to throw out, “Great job” praises like they’re confetti.
In order to create self-sufficient and confident learners, praises need to be intentional.
So next time, when Johnny shows you his painting from art class, instead of saying, “Great job,” tell Johnny what job he did great. You can say, “Cool, Johnny! The colors you added really make the picture POP!” With this specific praise, Johnny knows exactly how he’s done a “great job” painting.
Congratulations! You’ve just produced a self-sufficient, confident learner!
“I Love How…”
STOP saying, “I love how…”
START loving your students for who they are and not for what they do.
For example, the statement, “I love how Susan is standing quietly in line,” subjectively communicates to other students, “We will only be loved if we are standing quietly in line.”
Using an “I love how…” statement ultimately conveys subjective judgement to students that their worth is dependent upon pleasing their teacher.
Rather than creating this behavior of dependency in students and shame in other students, demonstrate to your students that they are loved no matter what. This requires a change in thinking as an educator and a breaking of old habits.
Tell yourself that it’s not about you, it’s about being direct, objective, professional, and conveying to students they are loved for who they are, not what they do.
Instead, you can say, “Susan is standing in line quietly.” By calling attention to Susan’s behavior in an objective manner, you’ve accomplished three things:
The entire class has been reminded of correct line behavior expectations from a simple and objective comment.
For Susan, intrinsic motivation has taken place! Given reassurance that her line behavior is correct, she will most likely continue to follow line rules because she wants to, not because she feels like she will be shamed if she doesn’t.
Other students have a positive student role model to model their own line behavior after, and at the same time are not feeling shamed and insecure. They know they are still loved.